Session 5 GODLY SEXUALITY: The Importance of Sex

 Sex Is a Good Creation of God

 ·       God created sex within the context of MARRIAGE.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he   created him; male and female he created them.  God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:27-28)

 ·       It is good and BEAUTIFUL – not shameful or gross.

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe and a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”     (Proverbs 5:18-19)

 Outside of Marriage Sex Is a Sin

·       Sex before Marriage…

·       Adultery…

·       Orgies

·       Homosexuality…

     …are all SINS that God will judge.

 “Marriage should be honoured by all and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”

 (Hebrews 13:4; see also 1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

 Sex Unifies

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator       made them male and female, and said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh?  So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (Matthew 19:46)

 ·       Sex is Union by a Man and Woman on three levels:

-       Physical – the actual ACT of making love.

-       Emotional – the bond of love HEIGHTENS the act because the act is motivated by an unselfish desire to serve and please your husband or wife.

-       Spiritual – since God ORDAINED sex as an act designed for only two people. 

 Consequences of Sex Before Marriage

 - “Do you not know that your bodies are member of Christ himself?  Shall I then take them and unite them with a prostitute?  Never!  Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?  For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.’  But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.  Flee from sexual immorality.  All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.  Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?  You are not your own, you were bought with a price.  Therefore honor God with your body.” - (1 Corinthians 6:15-20).

     ·       Soul Ties - Soul ties are very STRONG and affect your actions.

·       Pregnancy – (2 Samuel 11:3-5)

·       Sexually Transmitted Diseases – (Mark 3:10)

·       Abortion (murder) – (Exodus 20:13)

·       Sinning Against your Own Body – (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

·       The wrath and judgment of God – (Hebrews 13:4)

 Sins of a Sexual Nature

·       Lust – impure thoughts and desire for SOMEONE other than your spouse.

·       Sexual Fantasies – REHEARSING sexual acts in your mind that are not with your spouse

·       Pornography – media that CONTAINS sexual acts and nudity

·       Masturbation – selfish-gratification

           “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell          you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already    committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28; see also        Ezekiel 20:30, Proverbs 6:25, 1 John 2:16)

God Wants Total Purity

 ·       Mental - “…if anything is excellent or praise-worthy – THINK about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)

 ·       Emotional - “not in passionateLUST like the heathen who do not know God.”

(1 Thessalonians 4:5)

 ·       Spiritual - “For God did not CALL us to be impure, but to live a holy life.”

(1 Thessalonians 4:7)

 ·       Physical - “FLEE from sexual immorality…” (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Being Made Pure In the Eyes of God

    ·       Repent for Any SEXUAL sins

“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.” (Acts 3:19)

    ·       Receive FORGIVENESS

“…I will frown on you no longer, for I am merciful, declares the Lord, I will not be angry forever.” (Jeremiah 3:12)

·       Receive the FREEDOM Only Jesus can Give

          “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:36)

     ·       God DESIRES to Heal Your Body – Mind & Spirit

     “Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits – who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. (Psalm 103:2-5)

 ·       Walk in Purity – Go and SIN No More

“…Then neither do I condemn you, Jesus declared, Go now and     leave your life of sin.” (John 8:11)

      ·       Maintain SCRIPTURAL Guidelines for Marital Relations

“But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.  The husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband.  In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.  Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 

(1 Corinthians 7:2-5)

    ·       Avoid TEMPTATION

“…Now flee from your youthful lusts…” (2 Timothy 2:22)

·       Guard Your Eyes and HEART (and everything else)

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.” (Job 31:1)

“Above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)

 ·       Get IMMERSED in God!!